The courts in our part of Iowa require that all parents making custodial decisions about their children attempt to reach agreement in mediation.  Mediation is a conversation between parents on how to best parent their children going forward.  You as parents are the experts on your children's care, and the court knows that.  You have a chance to be creative and thoughtful as you taken into consideration the unique aspects of yourself, your child and your family to create a parenting plan.